Grounding Thoughts
Allow myself to feel, then release.
I deserve Kindness.
Allow myself to enjoy who I am. I am not just a project.
Does this thought cycle serve me or hurt me?
I don’t need the answer/resolution right now.
I can do hard things.
These feelings are okay (applies to everything.)
I am not my thoughts.
I am not my trauma responses.
I am not lesser or unworthy because of my disabilities.
Tell myself it’s okay.
Write it out.
Is this a pointless hypothetical?
If it is only fear that is stopping me then I should not listen. Don’t respond to fear. Don’t make choices because of fear.
I can do this now. I am capable of this now.
My reality is my own, I decide my own perspective.
I am whole, and I am allowed to have dualities. I can be more than just one thing. I am Yin and Yang, I am not good or bad, I am perception. (Explore cognitive dissonance.)
I am allowed to be many things and they can all be true, I cannot be conclusively defined by any of it.
I am the good and the bad of myself and having bad parts does not discredit the good parts.
There is no true good and bad, there is only the impact I want to have on the world and on myself.
I do not always need to decide whether something is good or bad, only how it serves me.
Everything I think and feel is authentic to me. Everything I think and feel is okay.
Things will come to me as they are meant to, decisions included, and the most authentic thing I can do is just continue to listen to myself and my current desires/needs/concerns without the pressure to find answers or conclusions.
I am not postponing my life by not knowing what I want yet, I am navigating it in the most authentic way that I can.
I’m not postponing my life by letting myself learn from it the natural way.
Does this benefit me?
Am I giving this more than I receive from it?
There’s nothing wrong with me. (Radical self-love, radical self-acceptance.)
I am allowed to not always look pretty.
I have the kind of beauty that can only be fully seen by looking closer, by seeing what lays underneath my skin and what makes it glow. That is why I will always be loved by the right people.
It’s okay if I don’t like the way I feel about things, I don’t have to search for other explanations. Don’t overcomplicate it, allow yourself to feel/think things you don’t want to.
You will not find different answers to the same root problem by overcomplicating it, but it’s okay if you aren’t ready to act or respond to it yet.
Its okay if you know better and still act on your flaws. You are learning and growing. Be patient with yourself.
Respect my own dualities.
Find what need is not being met. Nourish that need.
Find the hidden needs, the common grounds, and the resolution between my dualities. Find peace between them, learn what powers both sides, they are both valid. Create open communication between them. Get them to respect each other.
Find peace in the process of navigating myself. It is okay that I don’t have the answers yet, these things take time, and even internal journeys require rest. Let go and free myself from the cycles when I’m not getting anywhere.
Find the starting point/returning point of the cycle. What is the answer/feeling I’m not happy with? What is the need not being met?
Don’t accept or respond to the guilt of self-criticism. I don’t benefit from this tactic. Don’t criticize myself. Find the balance between accountability and radical self-acceptance. This can apply to external circumstances too.
Don’t criticize others. Hold them accountable, but practice acceptance. Acknowledge and validate their humanity. They are allowed to be flawed.
All the healing I have done so far has happened by giving myself time, acceptance, and by being my own support system.
Be patient and forgiving with myself, respond to my own needs and concerns with care. If I don’t have an answer or can’t make a choice right now, I will get there when I’m ready. Don’t bully myself.
Real control comes from making choices from a place of healthiness, not a place of pain.
There’s no real “right” way to heal.
It’s okay that I’m not ready yet for the life that I want to have with someone. That doesn’t make me the problem, it doesn’t mean I don’t deserve it or that I’m not worth it.
My choices and mistakes don't define me, my intentions do. Thoughts, choices, and reactions are all responses to circumstantial conditioning. I am my effort to grow, my self-accountability, my self-awareness, and my intention.
Every quote that I read and agree with, but am no longer moved by, marks a milestone of growth that I have already accomplished.
Pain is a natural part of life, but suffering is resolvable.
Pain only becomes suffering when we believe we are powerless in the face of what caused it. Power doesn't come from the ability to prevent or escape pain, it comes from the ability to feel and release it. Power comes from choosing how to navigating pain.
You can't resolve pain; only suffering. Time is what resolves pain. You can keep a wound clean, stitch it up, bandage it, but only time can heal it.
Teach my heart and mind to fall in love with each other. They can take turns making choices. They can compromise. They can adapt to each other’s needs. It doesn’t have to be a power struggle.
Does the thing I’m worrying about have any real direct impact on my life?
I don’t have to feel this right now, the feelings will still be there when I have time
Guilt is for actions and decisions. Not feelings. You don’t get to choose the way you feel. Don’t guilt yourself for it.
It is not easy to find fulfillment in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
I don’t disappear for peace anymore. I am peace, and my presence brings it.
I am no longer disappearing to keep others comfortable. I’m showing up as my whole self, leading with empathy because that’s who I am, not because it’s what’s expected of me.
Expressing my needs from a place of compassion is an act of peacekeeping
Honesty is kindness
